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Having a great chat with some friends who are both blooming with pregnancy and growing those beautiful new, shiny souls in their tummies, we got onto the topic of inappropriate comments people make whilst pregnant.
It was interesting how many related to shock and size.
My friends and I have all had the following said to us.
The “Multiple birth association” comment:
“Are you having triplets ?!?”
The “Stating-the-obvious” comment:
“Wow. You really are looking pregnant.”
The “Time keeper” comment:
“You must be due any day now” (when you are only 20 weeks)
The “Size-does-matter” comment:
“But you’re so HUGE”
I have also had people ask me when I was due, when I actually wasn’t even pregnant. I have probably done it myself in my foolish youth. Off to confession.
It is almost as though there are so few pregnant women around or in public, that it is like an abnormal state of being to actually see a very pregnant woman. Many of my friends are expecting their 4th or 5th babies at the moment, and it is just such a normal but wonderful thing to see them getting on with their lives and struggling to keep smiling amidst the “insults and (verbal) spittle” which are liberally sprinkled around these days in our Culture of Death.
It really is another way the family suffers a form of martyrdom in this time in which we live. If you do not have a strong conviction that bringing life into the world is the most important task a person can ever co-operate with God in doing, then why would you bother? With all the flack, it would be easy to bow out after the mandatory one or two, or not even bother at all.
It is source of great joy to me who would have loved a large family, to actually see families who do embrace the fullness of life, including the necessary cross that comes with bearing children in a culture that is hostile towards them even from the womb. If women can end the lives of their unborn babies and have the culture fund and sanction such actions, then of course people will feel at liberty to scorn those foolish enough to have embarked upon this noble road.
So, fear not, brave families. You are indeed walking your Calvary now, but what an abundant amount of life came from that barren hillside! So too with you and those beautiful children you are embracing in your womb. What a gift to be able to protect them in their fragile state and to bear their burdens upon your own shoulders, following behind the One whom you seek above all others.
And, if all else fails, you can always resort to this one:
Have a great week everyone!